Success verses Failure…by Tanya

Posted by admin in Client Stories, Featured Articles on Mar 16th, 2010 | one response

12^th March 2010

I have realised that about 4 years ago my gender swaying journey began… I can hardly believe that in those 4 years I have been pregnant 4 times, two heartbreaking miscarriages including my much desired little boy, my fourth daughter and a pregnancy that I hope will fulfil my desire to parent a little boy… do I feel that this will happen, not really. I sometimes feel as though I have done nothing to deserve to have something go in my favour. I know many people who in their lives they have a plan and usually everything in that plan is fulfilled, it can be quite disheartening to know that some people are just more likely to see failure than success…. Do I believe this is a disadvantage? Basically, No.

Life has a tendency to throw proverbial spanners in the works and people who have developed coping skills to work with disappointment, failure and loss are more adept at coping though these times. People who are more adept to success, who do not know what it is to feel failure and loss, I feel may be less likely to cope during these times and may suffer from more stress and depression caused by life’s unavoidable pains.

But then I think maybe my failure at swaying may be due to my lack of planning, my lack of ambition to succeed in other areas of my life and my lack of interest to keep up with the pack. Really? Can my lack of organisation and planning really mould my entire life to know more failure than success?

So I guess I am putting my failed sways and miscarriages in the forefront of my mind, this is what is important to me right now and I see my failure in this area as a fail in life in general. Can things we want very badly in the present and failure to obtain cause you to see only what is bad in your life? To not see the wonderful life you already have?

Wow, that was a very in-depth mind vomit!! I would love to hear what others think, and not just about gender swaying.